What’s something you did a lot as a kid that you don’t miss now that you’re an adult?
15.06.2025 18:09
Trust me wsg, we as a whole family were too simple people and most people in those times were innocent , unlettered, rustic but in a positive way as they were child like.
perhaps this is the reason; I m too sensitive, cry when some song is too good or some poetry, or some unbelievable dialogue etc
But now, I m an introvert, have become unfit in society as people are too shallow and materialistic.
How do I become a Buddhist, and can someone explain Buddhism to me?
Now something very interesting and surprising.
Anal stage - derived pleasure by withholding and expelling faces. It’s a stage of toilet training as well. Inadequate toilet training leads to overly orderly or many OCD are also related.
But my parents never discouraged me to do experiments as a child.
I hope u will fathom out from where I m coming from ?
“ where ignorance is a bliss it’s folly to be wise “ this situation happens with me all the time.
Family is the first institution that kills all creativity as parents don’t allow the child to do whatever he or she likes.
Further Freud has given 5 stages of personality development::
dear wSG ; I miss most of my childhood as “” as a child, u are a clean state and lot can be written on it.
u won’t believe I can easily recall my experiences when I was just 2 years old. I remember almost everything.
where are people who are extremely well read but don’t have a single book displayed in drawing room ?
you can say I was against inequality and a deep thinker as a child .
My parents believed in equality of human beings so the helpers in our life were our family members and I was raised and kissed etc by not so clean helpers and my parents always encouraged them not to feel bad about ur caste etc and these 2 children ( me plus my elder brother )are urs.
Oedipus - means a sons sexual attraction towards mother.
“”yes, I don’t miss climbing tress, playing with mud, fighting with friends, teasing people etc as I was too naughty as a child and was an extrovert””
Not only this, I was too good in football and hockey . My dad had his residence, office and a swimming pool in his residential complex. Swimming pool used to get open for public only between 10 am to 7 pm or 8 pm. So we as a family would swim in clean water at night or early in morning.I still remember the the name of caretaker of pool which was Nanku and he really loved us all as my parents were too honest, humble and down to earth. My father suffered a lot because of his extreme honesty and his being against corruption of entire system but he never feared. U know pesticides and insecticide against crops were showered through a helicopter 🚁 and this helicopter used to get parked in my mother’s residence. It’s long ago and there use to be huge vacant areas. I as a kid, would take a ride of helicopter almost everyday initially but later it became too boring and I preferred playing than anything else plus studying.
Do very hot men ever feel attracted to an ugly woman? Why?
As a 3 or 4 year kid, I use to gaze at breasts of our female helpers. My mother knew child psychology.
Trust me people are jealous of Freud and 3 or 4 other great thinkers otherwise we would have found many extraordinary explanations of intriguing questions about human nature.
You can not imagine in ur wildest dreams how much love I had for poor and farmers of our area.
Trust me when we were filthy rich, I was ashamed of our affluence and my mother noticed this and always treated me with huge respect as if I m some saint.
Trust me I m a huge fan of Freud as I have personally experienced all those things.
i would bombard my parents with too many questions like why “ bhajno and sheela “ don’t wear better clothes; why baba Nihal Singh is so poor. He was the one who loved me madly.i still remember 7 more names but….?
How can you maintain self-control?
I would catch frogs, I will go in wild and play with birds, 🐜 ants , dogs, rabbits and in close observation of some helpers; I would even watch closely snakes etc
“””death of creativity in family.”””
Again I feel “ knowledge is not power, it’s a curse”
adolescent stage
My parents use to get transferred but our relationship with our childhood helpers always remained in tact .
I don’t find people who are on the same page with me.
What smell will you never forget?
I don’t have energy please, to go in further details as a whole book of 200 pages can easily be written as it’s too amazing observations of Freud.
i love solitude and hardly talk for days.
Oral stage - child derived pleasure by sucking nipples etc and those who are not properly breast fed , they get fixated at oral stage and as adults indulge in lots of eating, smoking, chew gums etc . I was breast fed for 3.6 years. Those who are long breast fed , grow up as good human beings as they develop trust for humanity. They also develop immunity against diseases etc
My friend , i m too emotional but trust me I don’t fear anything, too stable and happy in my own company.
phallic stage - child experiences pleasure by fondling genitals.
Love u genuinely.
latent stage
Electra means a daughters sexual attraction towards father.
Right from my childhood, I had huge love for poor and I would always insist my parents to help them as much as they can.
but as adults we become prisoners of norms, values, ambiguous laws etc and “” all our creativity goes into Dustbin.
Freud gave concepts of “”Oedipus complex”” and Electra .
you tell me my friend, where do I find people who appreciate deep poetry or some play ; or who love clutter free life ( all want huge collection of everything )
Dear friend, sorry for being immodest, but since I was a gifted child 👶, along with having civil servant parents, I had all the facilities at my disposal. Before the age of 10, I became almost sub junior champion in badminton 🏸, swimming, and 🏏 cricket.